Wife allowed to touch the car?

racer · Jan 10, 2019

Lots of issues going on here OP that might best be worked out with a professional.

That said, my wife has driven a stick since she got her license. She is my wife. She does drive my car on occasion, but prefers her own car. She's driven all of my stick shift cars over the years. When we first met, her VW was a stick. My kids will learn to drive stick as well. They may even learn on my Si, since my other stick car is almost 50 years old.

NotSerious · Jan 10, 2019

It is just a Civic. Not an NSX. They are used to commute and drive to the mall. Once you have had someone rear-end you or open their door into yours in a parking lot or a shopping cart rolls into it, you will become less anal about it.

These cars are meant to be used. They are never going to appreciate and become a collectors item because they are too numerous and too budget oriented. Take reasonable precautions, but don't go overboard. 20 years from now it will be rusting in a scrapyard. It certainly isn't worth risking your marriage over.

ShuJam · Jan 12, 2019

87elco said:
I don't understand what the phenomenon is. If an accident happened you'd just go through the windshield

Or you would get a broken leg into your broken face from the airbag going off.

SCOPESYS · Jan 12, 2019

My wife is allowed and encouraged to touch anything of mine, and I am allowed and encouraged to touch anything of hers. (Cars included !! )

Makes for a Happy Marriage

SCOPESYS · Jan 12, 2019

kg4fxg said:
What makes our marriage happy is we take her car. She can put her feet on the dash, eat in the car, do whatever she wants. I am a bit restrictive. She spends maybe 30 minutes a day round trip commute compared to my 2 hours a day. I feel as if I live in my car. During the week I see and have more time with my car than the wife. The other woman in my life.

OK, we have been married 30 years. At that point you can get into a rut. Our marriage is also celibate (her choice). How many guys would go for a sexless marriage? And stick it through? Not many I am sure. At my age, why change things. Everything including the house is paid off. I work and my only enjoyment is work and a clean car besides a few hobbies. But then in my day I have seen many odd marriages. My only girl on the side is the car. One poster said I need professional help. Yes, I would agree why do I stay married at 56 with an adopted daughter of 13? Alternatives? Loose everything. I tend to be one of those minimalists. Clean not a packrat. Organize. Wife keeps everything. Currently, working through boxes of what is left from our parents in the garage and house. Another issue, taking care of aging parents in the house. Call me crazy, that was what the last 5 years was like so the car has been my get away to think and have a place to organize that is clean. My retreat.

I spend time detailing my car. Wife says why don't you detail mine. So I do. We drive hers because I run massive miles on mine so weekends it is hers. Helps me makes mine last otherwise I seem to be getting a new car all the time. Marriage is an odd thing. Making it work, well, whatever it takes. I would not consider mine the norm. But then, most of my friends have been married several times and I only once. I would rather just have my wife as a best friend and that is what i have. She understands my need for clean and organization. I guess typical as most CPA's are that way. Would I trade my wife in? No.

I am sure there meds I can take for being so OCD. But then anyone attracted to Griots, Chemical Guys or other detailing sites would need professional help as well. I like a clean car. Besides, I cook, grocery shop, clean and do the laundry. I do it all. So I am guilty as charged!

Nothing like a fully detailed car. Oh, the smell. The smell in the garage after detailing today. Riding down the road listing to my music is therapy. Having a clean car wow! Makes a high stress job all worth it.

I was with you, all the way to the last line ...

CPA - makes a high stress job worth it ?? I had never though of being a CPA as a High Stress Job... The things one can learn on the CivicX Forum

Enjoy your car

SI_honda_2k17 · Jan 12, 2019

It’s just a civic so yes she drives my car

basilpesto · Feb 12, 2019

SI_honda_2k17 said:
It’s just a civic so yes she drives my car

As long as my gf takes care of it, she also does.

SCOPESYS · Feb 12, 2019

SI_honda_2k17 said:
It’s just a civic so yes she drives my car

It's just a civic so yes she lets me drive her car :drive:

(and do the maintenance work :doh:

), but she washes and details it

charleswrivers · Feb 12, 2019

Ever seen this...?

Honda Civic 10th gen Wife allowed to touch the car? c6b3a2c926107f48e65c3b7f00233c5f

This is my life. I'm messy around the house... and my wife picks up after me and kids more than I do. My wife drives all our vehicles, Civic included and gets them dirty (filthy) inside and out and I clean them and maintain them. The house is much bigger and the kids are sometimes rabid animals so I feel like I'm making out like a bandit most of the time.

...until I clean the back seats and vacuum 5 pounds of crumbs of out of them.

xaviersayys · Feb 15, 2019

I don't know if I'm that extreme but I don't let my boyfriend drive my car. I let him drive my previous car once and when pulling up he scraped the curb so hard I cringed. Tore that rim up. So naturally, once I got this car, no one but me is driving. As for being inside, I just ask that everyone keep it tidy.

JNRS · Feb 15, 2019

I'm like girls room and boys car lol (Minus the pink).

kg4fxg · Feb 15, 2019

We have two cars. To the wife a car is just means to point A to B.
Wife wants to eat in car? Wife wants to be comfortable meaning putting feet on dash? Wife eats take out in her car and I see the remnants and bags.
Wife does not care what car we drive and I fill her car up with gas as she never has to pump gas and I detail her car as well.

My car immaculate like the Virgin Mary.
OK, OCD that is my thing. Wife is fine with it. Take her car and she can do whatever she wants wants in it. Besides, she drives 5 miles to work and I 30 miles or 2 1/2 hours per day to her 15 minutes or so.

Wife does not want to drive my car. She respects my OCD clean. And, she is thankful I clean her car and wash it.
And, because I run massive miles we drive her car on weekends to prolong me trading mine for a new car. My car 88K. Wife's car 25K. Massive difference. And it works! Everyone is happy.

When you spend 2 to 3 hours a day in a car life changes. As opposed to 30 minutes a day. It is my place to decompress. Reduce stress.

I would gladly change jobs, make 20K less and match wife's income and commute. Otherwise, I need a clean car. I spend more time in the car than with the wife! I get home, make dinner as I do all the cooking, cleaning , laundry, grocery shopping, bill paying and than bed.

Many who do what I do would say find a different wife? I do it all at home. And raise my daughter as well.

davidpeab · Feb 15, 2019

My wife is very hard on cars. Outside, rounds off the corners on stuff like those yellow poles around parking lot ticket machines and parking way too close to other junkers. Inside, garbage scow. Actually found a half eaten yogurt under her seat. She 'wondered what that smell was." She understands that I am anal about my cars and keep them looking like new and able to mechanically pass the state inspection at all times. I maintain her car for stuff like brakes and oil changes and occasionally bashing and/or taping her bumper cladding back on. She doesn't even ask unless she's joking. Then we just laugh and laugh.

kg4fxg · Feb 15, 2019

My point exactly. Does wife car care how she parks? Driving too close to cement parking stop? Poles in parking lots? Food in car?

If your wife could careless about the car and you do then come to an agreement of which my wife and I have. Being OCD about my car and going out we take hers. Allow her to do whatever in her car. Simple. If I let my wife drive my car it would be in the body shop monthly. And I would be in a rental. One look at how many curbs she clips I would be getting new rims weekly. Standing recurring appointment at the Honda dealership.

OK, my problem, I like a clean car. I like a car that does not have rims ruined because of curbs. I like not finding half eaten food under the seat - my bad. I don't think God makes enough medication I could take to make me fine with that sort of thing (Maybe). So we agree to disagree and because it is an non-issue to her we agree. She is like what is the problem? Who cares if a milkshake is dumped on the seat. It eventually drys anyway? What are a few french fries under the seat? Spilled Coke, maybe it cleans other spills? That spilled yogurt is organic, no problem. Backing into the cement pilar no issue I did not see it. Who cares, the car still runs fine. Starbucks coffee spilled everywhere so what? Who doesn't have that issue? Makeup on the steering wheel? Who doesn't put makeup on while driving? Used tampons in the cup holder, well you need to change them when the time is right? Spilled cereal? Of course, have to eat breakfast in the car. Pop Tart wrappers and why looks like glitter? Used condoms - we won't go there. Foot prints on the moon roof? Really?

And so it goes. Life with OCD. Love detailing the car. And avoiding the above.

Resolution? Wife could careless. Take her car. Just don't make her get in our pristine car. It works. Making marriage manageable. OK, guilty. I don't like french fries under the seat so crucify me.

oliviaiiii · Mar 3, 2019

kg4fxg said:
My point exactly. Does wife car care how she parks? Driving too close to cement parking stop? Poles in parking lots? Food in car?

If your wife could careless about the car and you do then come to an agreement of which my wife and I have. Being OCD about my car and going out we take hers. Allow her to do whatever in her car. Simple. If I let my wife drive my car it would be in the body shop monthly. And I would be in a rental. One look at how many curbs she clips I would be getting new rims weekly. Standing recurring appointment at the Honda dealership.

OK, my problem, I like a clean car. I like a car that does not have rims ruined because of curbs. I like not finding half eaten food under the seat - my bad. I don't think God makes enough medication I could take to make me fine with that sort of thing (Maybe). So we agree to disagree and because it is an non-issue to her we agree. She is like what is the problem? Who cares if a milkshake is dumped on the seat. It eventually drys anyway? What are a few french fries under the seat? Spilled Coke, maybe it cleans other spills? That spilled yogurt is organic, no problem. Backing into the cement pilar no issue I did not see it. Who cares, the car still runs fine. Starbucks coffee spilled everywhere so what? Who doesn't have that issue? Makeup on the steering wheel? Who doesn't put makeup on while driving? Used tampons in the cup holder, well you need to change them when the time is right? Spilled cereal? Of course, have to eat breakfast in the car. Pop Tart wrappers and why looks like glitter? Used condoms - we won't go there. Foot prints on the moon roof? Really?

And so it goes. Life with OCD. Love detailing the car. And avoiding the above.

Resolution? Wife could careless. Take her car. Just don't make her get in our pristine car. It works. Making marriage manageable. OK, guilty. I don't like french fries under the seat so crucify me.

Your wife is very lucky to have found you!

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